Most of the problems that we face in life is because of comparison. We want to be something relative to others. I need to get a salary more than the perceived market average. I need to get more than what my peers get. I need to grow taller than others. It isn't enough to just make good profits, it should be more than what my nearest competitor gets. I need to get a girlfriend who is prettier than my friend's.
The media reinforces such thoughts, amplifying the insecurities. You have to be fairer- use fair and lovely. You have to be taller- drink complan.The insecurities are because of the comparison and the world runs on insecurity.
Does it mean that we not compete ? Not at all. Competition is fine. But being jealous is not.
Isn't it enough to be happy? Why the comparative & superlative degrees of happier & happiest ? Why this kolaveri ?
Totally agreed Rajesh bhai. I am even against the competition. Though it still thrills me seeing India beating Australia, not for the game, but for the opposition who we are beating ;)
ReplyDeleteProbably its deeply rooted in our minds. And I see it coming from the basic instinct 'survival of the fittest'. Not sure how can we go about it!
This is purely western way of thinking.
ReplyDelete-- Create fear
-- Create a product as a solution
-- Sell and make money
And we have started to operate the same way. Our peers create fear in our minds about everything, be it education, salary etc etc, the solution is to jump into the 'Race' and 'Beat' others to be on 'Top'. Means does not matter -- this is the solution that we have discovered, current system is thrives on this.
And the rest you know what's happening.
@Anil :
ReplyDeleteI too am confused mate. But its ok to be confused. It means we are thinking about it, right?
@Manu :
May be its just the human way of thinking. East or west, we all succumb to it, though in varying degrees.